I find this hard to belive. I was both the dumper and the dumpee couple of times and it was NEVER hard for me to dump. I remmeber, when I made my decision, I haven't felt that happy in a long time. Just the thought of being single and free again made me excited! That I don't have to fake or try anything, just be myself. And when I was dumping, I always gave the reasons no matter how harsh they maybe were, I was always honest. Sure I felt bad for them but that's as far as my emotions for breakup went. Then as soon as they go away I feel good and I never look back (I don't sell the crap about being friends and shit like that), if I wanted them as friends or knew I'm gonna miss them I wouldn't breakup in the first place. Basically, when I breakup that means I don't feel entertained by their presence anymore, no matter what kind of a fun activity we could do together. No matter for how long we've been together, I dumped a guy that I was with for 2 years and I only felt happiness doing it (he cheated on me). So when my most recent ex of 3 years dumped me and told me how hard it is for him, then telling me how he misses me and tries manipulating me into staying friends, I just can't help but laugh off and know that he is lying! Maybe it's just me, maybe people really do breakup over stupid things and then they wonder why they are missing the person... How about you?
Most Helpful Guy
Depends on why you dump them. Ever dumped someone because your family pretty much threatened you to choose. I have. Ever breakup during a fight and have the other person take that sincerely and never come back (a friend of mine did this). Ever breakup because a future with that person sounded terrifying (my aunt did this after my uncle was paralyzed in a car accident they eventually got back together). Ever breakup with someone you love who cheated on you. You'd think that's an easy decision but it's not at all I know from experience. Not all break ups are simply I don't want you bye. Sometimes there's a lot of external factors that'll push you to leave someone you truthfully really liked.0
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Most Helpful Girl
I don't think either positions are easy. Being dumped is obviously harsh. Nobody likes to be rejected by someone they care for.
Whether you're dumping because of the wrong-doing of your s/o or if it's something from your own end, that's not easy either. Your boyfriend cheated on you? Sure, the break-up itself is a no-brainer. Dealing with how he could have been with you for however long while hiding this other girl. When you put all your trust into him and thought this was mutual only to have him completely blind-side you.. not so fun.
Even if it's one of those cases where you just lose feelings for him, or say find someone better, I can't imagine it being easy to hurt and leave behind someone who you once shared something great with, and who was all about you.
For me, it's rarely the break-up itself that hurts. More like the gradual downfall if the relationship was toxic, or the vicious cycle of thoughts that follow. Guilt for hurting someone, wondering what I was lacking that made me just not enough for him.0
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