This is gonna be quite a lengthy post and I apologize. I wish I could TLDR it.
There's a gal I've known for a little over a year. We met through a college FB page. We talked for a few months, got real close and eventually met the beginning of this year (we're from different states). I made the mistake of having sex with her while we were drunk. I know this makes me look bad but she iniitiated it and I got caught up in the moment and went along with it. I take responsibility for it.
I left and we still continued to be friends, talking everyday. She ended up not going to the same school for other reasons. A couple months after we saw each other, she told me she felt hurt and betrayed about what happened. She wanted to stop talking so I agreed because I didn't want to see her hurt.
A couple moonths later, she messaged me saying that she missed me and that she couldn't find someone who made her feel like I did (frienship wise at least). I found out that she was still talking to a guy (not dating but was interested in him). I still had deep feelings for her and ended up telling her that I didn't want to be her friend while she still talked to other guys. She proceeded to "break it off" again and we stopped talking. That was in May.
Fast-forward to this week and she comes back saying that she misses me, she felt bad about the whole thing. Me being the good guy, I let her back into my life. But this time, because I really missed her as a friend. She was the person I could go to for everything.
Right now, I'm realizing that that may not have been a good idea. I'm probably going to get hurt again. But I enjoy talking to her and talking to her has made me a happy person again. She hasn't been "bipolar" about anything. But I'm still going to feel crappy if I hear she's dating other guys.
I'm trying to decide what to do. Do I put my feelings in the back burner and remain friends? Or do I end things? And what do I say?
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It's your choice. Decide for who is best.1