I was with my ex-boyfriend for 12yrs until 2yrs ago when he moved to another city to open up his new business (he didn't ask me to come with him), he met someone else and starting dating her without telling me, they have been together since. During those 2yrs, he would use guilt and my feelings for him to get sex. But the past year, I have told him over and over that I was not interested in having a casual relationship with someone already in a relationship. Periodically I would receive texts telling me that he misses me and that he is very unhappy and they are barely together. I don't love him anymore, but I am forgiving person, and we still had some contact, but I never contacted him first. Over a month ago, he asked me if he was single is we could start seeing each (I told him awhile ago over and over and over again that I wasn't doing casual sex anymore), I told him that I would have to think about that, bc I knew that I didn't love him anymore. But then I found out that he was back together with his girlfriend, but he was still asking to see me. When I confronted him, at first he just ignored me, then finally he responed but he was very nasty and told me that his feelings for me were not mutual (I guess he thinks I still love him), he told me he didn't need to tell me because he was only interested in a casual relationship, in fact that is the only kind of he wants with anybody even his girlfriend who is committed to him. When I asked about the sweet messages he was leaving me, he said he was just being nice. He was just using me for sex. He was my first love and I thought he respected me more than that. I thought he was out of my life until this Fri morning when he asked for me to leave work that morning for sex, when I responded no, bc he had a girlfriend, he responded "not that again." He is not the man I fell in love with, I don't know this person.
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Why would you do that? How vindictive are you? Be the bigger person and just move on1