so I'm in a ldr and I think my boyfriend is cheating.
yesterday was new years eve and he went to party. he barely talked to me that day and it made me sad. I texted him happy new year and he didn't even say anything back. I understand that he was partying. but so was i. and I still took the time to say it to him.
i asked him if he hooked up with anyone and he said no. but I need to talk to you when I get off work. and I'm like oh great. about what? and he's like its not bad but you might get mad but if you do it would be for a dumb reason and I'm like OK. he got off work at 5 and he never told me. so I texted him at 530 and I was like so are you going to tell me? and he's like tell you what and I'm like um I don't know whatever you needed to talk to me about and he's like I don't know what you're talking about and I'm like um ok you must have gotten me and your other girlfriend mixed up. and he's like shut up I hate when you say that. and I'm like sorry but you told me you needed to talk to me. so he called me and was like OK you can't get mad and I'm like mhmm. he's like all my clothes where on when I woke up this morning, but when I woke up there was a girl next to me. my heart just f***ing sank and I was crying. and he's like do you trust me. and I'm like um no. and he's like OK bye. and I hung up. I texted him and I'm like thanks. he's like she's my good friend. and I'm like OK good go be with her. and he never texted me back. he's like I was sleeping when she got there and she's my best friend she was there because she didn't wanna get f***ed with. he would have gotten so mad at me if I told him that I woke up next to a guy after a night of partying and I know he would have broken up with me. but its OK for him to do that?
great excuse huh? so I'm mad at him and he hasn't texted me back in like 3 hours. and I've texted him like 5 times. I don't know what to do. do you think he's cheating on me?
- Yes he is.Vote A
- No he isn't.Vote B
Most Helpful Girl
I don't have opinion of whether he was cheating on you or not
But I have just been a LDR and I kept making excuses for when the guy wouldn't contact me, and his 'broken phone' and texting him even when he wouldn't reply, I really regret it, it made me feel so desperate. It is such a waste of time to be in a LDR when the guy is not there for you completely. Eventually I found out that he had been lying to me about many things, and it destroyed whatever good feelings I had about him and makes me wonder if perhaps he had a real girflriend or something. It has made me untrustworthy of guys since.
LDRs with a non-committed guy is such an emotional drain, I think it is better to be single. I didn't even realise what a drain it was till it was over and I realised how much time I had spent confused or watching my phone to see if he had finally got round to texting me.
If your worried he's cheating on you it suggests you are not feeling safe in the relationship. I think you should stop texting him, you'll regret it later if you don't.0