I am friends with a girl for last five years, and we became really close with time. I cared her a lot and wanted to be with her for this life. I confessed my love and she rejected me. I was writhing in pain but couldn't end things with her. I still love her and she still comes to me for anything important. But I sometimes feel pity about myself that I still waste a lot of time thinking about her and that I do a lot of things for her going out of my way even when I know that I am just one among her friends. I sometimes feel proud that I can still love her and that I can ONLY love her. Sometimes I feel rejected too. I feel pathetic that I have not let this go and it has drained my heart and soul. Should I just end this friendship? She has not lost anything by rejecting me, loss was all for me, even I have lost myself.
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Aww i am so sorry, i can see you are very hurt through your words
Rejection doesn't mean you are not good enough, it means the person failed to see what you had to offer, or they are not ready to take what you have to offer.
Personally, i couldn't remain friends with someone i was in love with. It would be far too painful, especially when they do meet someone... i would find it too emotional watching someoene i loved , love someone else.
It depends on how strong you are as a person. Can you really remain just friends and accept that it will never progress beyond that? If you truly value your friendship and don't want to lose that, then you will have to constanly fight back your feelings and emotions... that will be really hard to do. It'll be a constant fight for you.
Never lose yourself holding onto someone who doesn't care about losing you, it'll destroy you emotionally. I disagree with your last sentence "She has not lost anything by rejecting me, loss was all for me" ... because she has lost something... she has lost someone who loves her deeply and cares about her, while all you have lost is someone who doesn't love you.
Sometimes in life you have to accept some people can stay in your heart but not in your life. What will be more painful for you - cutting her out of your life and trying to move on, or remaining friends with her, even though a friendship is all it will be? Whichever is the least painful for you then i would suggest to go with that option.
It is painful to cut contact with someone you love, but the pain is short term, because holding on is so much more painful than letting go. Good luck xx1
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