One day , after 14 years of marriage, he just decided to up and leave.
He hasn't tried to get back with me in 3 months, in fact, he says things like "you are a disaster" "you never gave me what I wanted" "I wasn't happy" etc etc
is this a midlife crisis?
will he ever see sense?
will he ever come back?
Most Helpful Guy
"Is this a midlife crisis?"
No, a midlife crisis is when he goes out and buys an expensive, impractical car. This is far more serious; he abandoned his wife and kids.
"Will he ever see sense?"
I think he eventually will, but it will be too late.
"Will he ever come back?"
Probably not, but even if he does, do you REALLY want a guy in your life (and your kids' lives) who can't be trusted to stick around through thick and thin?2
Most Helpful Girl
I disagree with the others, I really think he might come back. It seems like a rushed decision and when it is, they often regret it. According to the angry and harsh things he said before he left, we can easily conclude that he had a crisis, or that he panicked, or even that he finally spilled out what he wanted to say for a long time. But with some perspective, I do believe he might grow to regret it and the life you guys had together.
But the important thing is that if he does come back, be very careful when you decide whether you want to take him back. If he genuinely wants to come back, he will do everything in his power to get back into your life and your kids' life, and you will know in your guts that he is sincere and that he learned from his mistakes. We are all humans and sometimes life gets a bit overwhelming and some people don't really know how to deal with it.
If he doesn't, I hope you can get on with your life :/ I can't imagine how tough it must be. Good luck with all of that sweetie.0