I was in a long distance relationship with a guy who lives in a different country. We met at a bar when I was traveling in the city where he lived. That was the last night before my flight back, so he took me to see places I hadn't been to and after a few hours he held my hand and acted like we were lovers. I wasn't interested, but didn't protest (still half drunk). I gave him my business card before leaving for the airport. 2 days later I got an email from him asking for my number. Then we whatsapped. A month later I asked him to go with me on a weekend trip in his home country. We first met in April, then met again in his hometown in July.
He tried to have sex with me on the first night we met again. But I couldn't. He told me to forget about it. We went out together and had so much fun.
After that, we texted and called frequently. In a year, I flew to see him 3 times, he came to my city only once. I was extremely busy with work but still tried to schedule a few days every 3 months to see him. During the time we were together, a lot of times he ignored my messages for 1-2 days. I told him that upset me, that if he was busy then tell me he won't be able to talk for a few days. He apologized, gave excuses but after the first few times he gave no explanation at all, just said he wouldn't do it again, but still did. Sometimes he ignored me over the weekend. I knew he wasn't busy because he uploaded photos of him going out on his instagram (which I don't follow, only checked when he ignored me). He always avoided talking about his feelings for me or wether he wanted to end the distance. I got tired. But he always treated me so well when I came to see him. He also sounded sincere when he apologized or said he missed me. So I put aside my doubts.
The post-breakup was more painful than I thought. And after 2.5 months, I emailed him. He texted me, said he missed me, and kept thinking about me even before my email.
Most Helpful Guy
This is why I do not believe in LDR. You both want things that each other cannot give. You two have missed the "getting to know each other phase" and jumped right into some kind of dating phase too quickly because the LDR situation you are in. He wants sex, and you are not ready yet, this is conflict. You probably don't want sex because you don't know him well enough, this is another problem directly due to the LDR. Right now it is just too messy. I think you both should dating other people that you can actually see every day.