My boyfriend says we should take a break. He says he's not giving up on us, but we wants us to be friends for now. He always says that he doesn't think he can met my expectations... he kept telling me not to make things harder... what does this mean? He means so much to me. What can I do to not loose him?
Most Helpful Guy
Usually, this only works if one person has it better than he or she realizes. Once they go out and explore the field a bit, they soon figure out how much better it was having a significant other, and come crawling back.
Most Helpful Girl
My boyfriend was the same way, minus the common courtesy of saying he wanted to take a break instead he just plain old broke up with me for no valid reason. We were dating for close to nine months and all of a sudden, the day after we had sex, I did not hear from him for a whole week and he kept on brushing me off when I tried to talk to him. He had written to me saying Happy Easter, but I ignored him. The next day he asked me something and I asked him if he still loved me, he responded saying no and that he wanted to break up with me. I was devastate and I wanted to rip his head off two days after he had texted me and wanted to chit chat. After that we remained friends for close to three months and he kept on acting like he was going to another state to be with this other girl, he was trying to make me jealous and I just did not show it at all. He would then say he was going to do something after he got me ticked, trust me if my mother was not forcing me to continue talking to him I would have just stop talking to him after he broke up with me.
Then three months later he started his little game again and I just responded with saying "It's alright, I'll just go talk to the other guy". He got extremely jealous after that and he literally begged me for a whole day to take him back and that he would change. His reason for breaking up with me was due to him being afraid of falling in love and he did not know how to treat someone he actually has feelings for, I believe he was heavily abused by his parents.
I believe in second chances and I gave him it. We've been together for four months and he is so much better now and we both feel comfy.
Moral of the story: It might be best to take a break with your boyfriend if he asks for it, he could be falling for you and is scared of it. Just give him time and space to figure things out. You're young and you have your whole life ahead of you, as my mother would say, and so is your boyfriend.
Hope this helped. Have a good day.1