I was recently in a 10 year relationship with my g/f. Long story short it did'nt work out. I have a kid to her, both good parents. It's been 3-4 weeks, child support already in play. I call her up about items to buy for my daughter, b/d Christmas etc... She starts crying and I know she wants to be a family, but our relationship was a little toxic. We both love each other, and I want her to be happy in every aspect. Should I wait a little longer and work on myself. I don't want to go through the process of getting a new place, change address start a new life and than 6 months to a year, not knowing it's going to work. Or should I swallow the hurt and move on eventually. I'm 33 and starting this single life nowadays. I would'nt know where to start, since i'm so caught up in work. Any advice from all ladies or whatever would be appreciated. Thank You
- Stick it out a while longer & see if she's moved on?Vote A
- Move on for myself and my child?Vote B
Most Helpful Girl
Being you Both do have a child together and it seems she loves you as well, I think you both should get together and try to compromise and get on the same page, knowing that everything is in the Midst of transpiring and becoming a house divided and No Reuniting. I realize this may have already been done but somehow in time maybe you both just need to do some more soul searching.
You love one another but for some reason this 'Toxic' relationship Isn't working so something is Not being applied here, dear. Perhaps if you changed some things and she did likewise, it could be better with a bit more nursing and nurturing.
Space for now with being single may help in this situation that needs to be applied with kids gloves. Don't jump from the fryer into the fire so fast and if you decide you are ever going to date someday, should this relationship Never really work out, then do baby steps no matter what you do or where you turn to for a shoulder to lean on.
You have a child and every other woman will know it. Just Know too that extra love bug baggage is hard to handle with another who many times cannot accept you both.
Good luck. xx0
Most Helpful Guy
May I ask what made your relationship toxic?1