Hi, i'm here to ask for some help! It's been already 7 months and I still think about my ex. I cry at times while thinking about him and i feel stupid for this. We were together for about 5 months and now we live in different countries. We broke up mostly because of my insecurities. He insisted in being friends with me, (which i accepted bcs well, i still had stepng feelings for him) because he "didn't want to loose me as a person, bcs i'm a good person", but the thing is: we were never friends before. After breaking up, we saw each other 3 times, the last two times he was already dating someone new.. He didn't told me about it, i had to ask. i still think about him because of the good memories we made together and because i ask myself: why does he wants to be friends? Why does he wanted to meet me up while dating other person? i want to forget him for real.
What should i do? Can you advice me for the best?
Most Helpful Guy
Unfortunately, you've made the pain continues on and one
you need to realize that breaking up does't mean you're a bad person, but it just means that his part in your story is over
you won't be able to take any decision if you don't forget about him and the past
and one of the most painful things in life is losing yourself in the process of loving others too much, and forgetting that you are special too
its time to free yourself to be YOU – and being YOU is the only way to be happy
forget about the past and Don't hold your feelings inside you more than that,'ll hurt you
just let it pass peacefully
start new life, fresh dreams
there a lot of beautiful things in this life you don't know about it
its your decision to live a happy life or not0
Most Helpful Girl
Hey sweetie! <3
Of all the girls who have gone through similar occasions, I will say forgetting an ex is probably one of the most hardest things a woman can ever do besides giving birth to a child.
In such cases, we continuously mourn over it because it was the best time we ever had with someone, we really felt connected to the person and losing them was the worst. It felt like our whole world just tumbled to the ground without any warning. Besides trying to get over someone and trying to be there friend, I could never do that with any of my exes because I did grow to really like them-and it hurt to see them with someone new. You'd think you should be happy for them but sometimes being happy for them can be even harder when you have to watch it all occur. For an example, it has been six years since the man I thought I had loved vanished from my life forever. Did I ever stop thinking about him? No. Did I ever stop wondering how he was or what he was doing? No.
What did I do then?
I cried continuously, I listened to depressing music and I took that time to heal. Even though I'm still not fully recovered. I started making goals for myself, accomplishing those goals, and staying busy. Toward the very last of it, It began to hurt less and less and it doesn't hurt now, as bad as it did then. I just figured, he'd always have a place in my heart, and I'd never forget him. Because what we had, to me, was the most wonderful times I had ever had. And because of him, I was able to have those memories of us and still keep them locked inside but no more had to continuously cry. I just learned to accept, and learned to forgive and here I am now, with a man I'm about to marry, and we have a daughter. And I thought to myself, if I never met this man I loved at first, I would have never learned who not to be with. I would have never of learned from anything that was taught to me and because of him, I have more than I could ever ask for and he has a beautiful girl that sticks by his side, more than I ever could, who loves him fully and unconditionally. How could I not be happy for both of us, when being in each others lives taught us so much and taught us how to move on?0