So this is sortof a painful topic for me. I've asked my girlfriends, and anytime they've had a breakup, the guy always comes back to them. I have never experienced this. And I have had several painful breakups in the last 5 years to where I just gave up entirely and stayed single for over 2 years. I recently met a great guy by random chance, that fell head over heals for me just as much as I did for him. It was perfect how everything worked out. He was exactly the kind of guy I was looking for: nerdy, adventurous, awkward, weird (seriously, girls don't like him) and not one to follow the crowd. However, he was just coming out of a 4 year relationship, 3 months before we met. I even asked him if he was ready for this, and he reassured me that he was, given that his ex was never around for months before the breakup. He had been lonely for a very long time. So I went with it. 2 months later, we broke up. He told me that he was not ready for a relationship, BUT he didn't want to break up. After 2 or 3 weeks of barely any contact (I knew more about what was going on in his life from social media than from him) and several long phone calls, I ended it. I didn't feel like he was ballsy enough to do it himself, but I felt like that's what he wanted. I didn't want it. But I didn't feel like I had a choice. We did commit fast, but we only saw each other on weekends anyways. That weekend, I made the mistake of blowing up his phone while he was out with his friends. (I was not drunk, btw) I pathetically poured my heart out to him via text and he took a screenshot of it and blasted me on social media instead of responding directly to me. That was 3 weeks ago. We haven't spoken since. I still think of him, I miss him terribly, and I don't understand where things went wrong. I wan't to believe that in time that we can forget and pick up from where we left off. But with my history of men that don't come back, I don't know if I'm lucky enough for that to ever happen..
Why have none of my exes ever come back to me?
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I guess its a case of "That ship has sailed". For me she could be the hottest woman on earth, but if she isn't into me then I'm not gonna chase her. As a guy I feel like it prolongs the hurt by keeping in touch knowing it won't go any further. Why would I want to be reminded of what happened?0
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