We broke up at the end of September. We've had no contact since. He's the one that left me... he blocked me on Facebook/msn etc Did the no contact thing ...we dated for 3 years btw. I recently noticed that he unblocked me on Facebook around Christmas... but I feel like I should wait for him to contact me first... but he hasn't. I'm still not over him... I think about him all the time...I've tried dating other people but I don't feel anything with anyone... not like I did with him. and I keep thinking if he wanted to talk to me he would have tried to contact me already right ? Or maybe he's just scared I don't know...cause the way he ended it was pretty brutal...and I wouldn't doubt that he thinks I hate him. he got a rebound girlfriend almost right away... and then he ended that recently...i guess the novelty wore off. I do have things of his that he would appreciate getting back... but I don't want to be the first one to initiate conversation cause I think it will make me look like an idiot...
what do you guys think ? should I try to talk to him or wait it out?
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WHOA. this is me girl! I'm going thru same thing! we dated 3 years, broke up in sept because he cheated on me with my best friend, he ended things brutally with me, left me 3000 dollars in debt, and then blocked me on all the social networking sites eventho I haven't even tried to contact him! he hasn't unblocked me from them... like ur ex has done with you. I think the reason they blocked in the first place is because they are taking out their mistakes on us. trying to make us feel bad, because deep down they feel bad and know they screwed everything up. FIRST of all, I know ur ex still thinks about you a ton. you guyz dated 3 years! and also, the fact that he unblocked says that he was thinking about you. what he is doing here is he is waiting to see if you will write to him. that's EXACTLY why he unblocked you... perhaps he is afraid to write to you because he doesn't want to put his pride down and is afraid you may tear him to shreds. if a man isn't willing to put his pride down than he ain't worth it! especially if he is the one that ended things so horribly! trust me, leave the contacting up to him. you will feel better about it in the long run, and to what it sounds like to me.. he is starting to cave. he wants to talk to you baddd. DO NOT message him. He will eventually cave strong enough and enough time will pass so that he will message you. it sounds like a dumb game... but I really think you should hold out. he owes you an apology if he wants you back and he should b the one contacting and showing he cares and kissing ur ass since he's the one that ended things! in anycase, he def. unblocked you because he is hoping you'll write to him... but don't do it. if you write to him ur letting him know that what he did to you and ur relationship was acceptable and ur willing to take him back easily. he needs to man up and be a man now. until then, you need to try to stop worrying about it and thinking so much about it and carry on with ur life. he can be an onlooker! and btw.. I'm not over my ex either so I understand what ur saying... but sometimes we need to just face things and realize that we were treated wrong and need to find someone better. I mean, come on! he totally dropped you for 3 months and even blocked you out of his life after spending 3 years with him?! that's bullsh*t that you DON'T deserve.0
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