My ex and I haven't even been broken up for a week yet.. She broke up with me because she said she wasn't in love with me anymore, she wasn't ready for a relationship anymore, she wanted to experience more things since she's in college... but I feel these are all coded reasons.. The main reason is.. I think for the last month I've became a little too clingy and she also I felt like I lost my admiration (she said this is one of the top 5 things she wants in a guy) when we were together she did things she never did for another ex.. she cried in front of me, she singed in front of me (never did with an ex) and so much more.. she gives a lot of mixed signals.. during the week we still talked on the phone 2-3-4 hours a day.. Friday she called me cause she wanted to check on me.. also texted me at 1 am when she was out with friends saying "hiii" we barely talked the weekend though... Also when I talk about the past relationship even intimate things.. and ask her if she remembers.. she will talk about it.. she doesn't get mad or anything.. so I'm not sure if she's completely over me.. still has feelings... in the future I hope to either become really close friends with her or maybe get back together.. but I'm not sure about either at some times.
Most Helpful Girl
When my ex broke up with me I decided to take it for what it is and walk away. When someone dumps you they pretty much make it clear they don't want you. Instead of trying to fix whatever issue they have they chose to dump you and leave you. So yes in a way you have to believe they are over you because they decided to leave. You can't really hold on and stick around till they decide to come back. You have to move on and realize it's over. There's no guarantee they'll ever come back so you have to treat it like it's a real break up and walk away. You can't be a doormat and hang around waiting for them when they decided to leave you. They should win you back and hang onto you, not the other way around so my suggestion is to move on.0
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Most Helpful Guy
Let me tell you this straight, NO one wants someone who is clingy, no matter if they say otherwise. Clingy is desperate and weak.
In her mind, and like most girls, would have broken up with you on an emotional level weeks before she decided to pull the plug. That's why it seems she's over you so quickly... because you didn't see it coming.
You need to stop these 2 hour phone calls, FOR THE LOVE OF CHRIST! She's shoving you into the friendzone...
Cut all contact with her ASAP. If she decides to contact you, assume she wants to meet and say something like "It's lovely to hear from you, we should meet up, when are you free?"
If she declines or says she's busy, just leave it at that and move on.
Please follow this. I know it seems arrogant of me to say this, but this is 1000% the truth.0
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