We have been together for 4 years now, and its a constant struggle. We love each other deeply but sometimes enough is enough. I've probably moved out about 10-20 times, and I always end up moving back in within 24-72 hours. Its always because he is so angry with me over something TINY and remedial, and then he realizes what he did to me and begs me to come back. I'm tired of hurting my mom through this, having her see me so upset and having my relationship so unstable. He gets mad at STUPID things, and most of all he doesn't seem to grasp the concept of an accident. He has a chemical imbalance in his brain, and I'm pretty sure he's bipolar, or even a sociopath. But I love him through his flaws. If I mess up something tiny, like not having cornmeal when he wants to fry chicken, or I accidentally left the oven on for over an hour while we left the house, or the simple fact that my hearing is terrible (which he knows, and has always known) and if I ask him what he said or tell him that I couldn't hear him, he gets so irritated that he bursts into an unforgivable rage, calling me all kinds of names, telling me to shut the f*** up, publicly humiliating me, ext. But if I do these things to him its not okay. Not saying I would, because I honestly do have pure and innocent intentions with everything I do in life. But if something doesn't go his way, its pack your sh** and get the f*** out of my house. And I've gotten so used to this that I don't hesitate to pack my things (I have a lot of stuff) but the entire time im upset that he is speaking to me so badly, but for some reason I still want to stay. I have so much hope in him and I know that we could stay together, but only if I bow down to his commands. He is very controlling, and I am very aware of that. But I have a problem with it, because both of us are dominant people. Any advice?
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I would have left years ago irrespective of how much I loved him.
I would not endure someone treating me like a second class citizen in their life.
I would not endure someone pushing and pulling me emotionally like that.
I would not be his verbal punchbag.
I would leave and find a new man.
And he needs to get some help because he's gotten used to treating this way and he won't ever see a need to change because he knows he doesn't have to.2