We broke up 7 months ago and up until now we've been on and off with the friendship thing. I try to walk away but he always makes me change my mind and keep hanging out with him. I guess the reason I stayed is because I'm still his "special" girl and his only friend as a matter of fact, he has no friends. But he has a fuck buddy. It's some girl from his class that has sex with him and 3 other guys occasionally, she is practically a slut. My ex says he is happy with it because he doesn't want a relationship at all right now. He basically dumped me so he doesn't need to commit. He said he could have a casual relationship with me too but that he is not sure if I would be okay with it (which of course I'm not). He also said he loves me and that he thinks that sometime in the future he will be ready to commit to me, but not right now. I had enough of this bullshit, I don't feel comfortable, I think he is stupid as fuck and blind. This is not the guy I fell in love with, I don't recognize him being this immature. He is 25 and he is going backwards with his life. He left a good thing (us) for the party life and sluts, but still wants me to be there haha. I tried getting him back, but I realized that that's not gonna happen as long as I am there giving in to him. I want to leave and tell him that I'm not comfortable with being friends and that I want to keep my dignity. He never got a chance to miss me because I was always there for him. Well, no more. I know there are really slim chances that he will want me back, more likely he will find something else to do and forget about me, but that's okay because I'm gonna do the same. If he changes his mind he knows where to find me. I gonna tell him this today with the smile on my face. What do you think?
P. S. We were in a LDR for almost 4 years. I'm moving there next year, with or without him.
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You need to move on from that guy, right now. I've been in a similar situation, I almost ruined my life because of this guy I dated for 10 years, who then dumped me and wanted to be friends. As weak as I was, I fell for that and it was a slow death to me. I wish I knew better and I remember people telling me what I'm telling you right now, but I just didn't want to stop having contact with him. But I assure you: once you do, it will feel bad for a while but you will get over it and survive, being as happy as ever! Delete his number, facebook, unfollow him in whatever social media you have, delete his pictures, put away everything that reminds you of him. Basically, pretend he doesn't exist and move on with your life. You will be so grateful that you did it, I promise.0