P. S. We were in a LDR for almost 4 years. I'm moving there next year, with or without him.
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To be honest, it sounds like you are better off without him.
I don't understand people who leave a good thing and think they can just come back to it someday, as if you will still be available. How is he so sure you won't get snapped up by some other guy who has his sense about him?
I personally would prefer to be with a guy who saw my value and wouldn't chance it by throwing me back into the dating pool. I started to feel this way after my ex cheated on me. If a person is willing to lose you, then they must not love you all that much. To me it makes sense.
Sure, we all make mistakes. But then it wouldn't be long before he realized that. But he thinks he can just come back, after leaving you like that? No, I wouldn't put up with that.
Here's what you do. You go out, start hanging out with your friends. Have lots of fun, work on yourself, do things that make you happy. Get a hair cut, get some new clothes, go on lots of dates. See what your options are. Stop talking to this guy and let him go live his party life.
He may notice, he may not. But the good thing is you will be too busy to care about what this chump is doing. It's totally okay if he truly doesn't want to be with you. But by the sounds of it he thinks you don't have other options (which seems really narcissistic of him to think that way!).