My ex-bf and I have been friends for about 8 years, since our sophomore year in college, ever since he has been my best friend. I never considered dating him bc I had no idea he liked me, well long story short, I am a single mom, got dumped by my ex-fiance, have been raising my daughter alone ever since. My best friend has always been there for me, he helped me move out, helped me with my daughter and my depression from being a single mom, he has always been there for me. Finally I decided I should give him a chance bc we were always around each other and my daughter loved him, I learned to love him too. After officially dating for over a year, we decided to move in together this July. We have a beautiful home together where I am now closer to my job (I had a pretty long commute) and my daughter switched daycares. I'm practically on my own in this town, so this was a pretty big deal to me, finally having support, a boyfriend that loved me and my daughter and who talked a big game about marriage, adopting my daughter, having more kids, we even talked about how to transition my daughter to start calling him dad.
Well the inevitable happened, he stopped coming home after work, always something for example: work issues, friends having issues, friends trying to commit suicide and he had to spend the night with him, his mom needed him to work on stuff (at 2 am in the morning!!!), always fantastical stories that I frankly stopped believing soon enough. This started all pretty much as soon as we moved in. I tried to remain calm and be understanding but eventually it became too much, I was feeling even lonelier than when I lived alone with my daughter. My girl and I started doing doings by ourselves, dinners on our own, I had to keep telling her he was working or at the gym when she asked for him and eventually he didn't even come home one night and didn't even had the decency to let me know! Continued..
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I am so sorry to hear this has happened to you. I am glad that you know that you don't deserve it and truly you don't.
I know how you feel - the suicidal thoughts. I became so depressed after being left by my ex and I couldn't live properly for a few months. It was terrible and so I understand how you must feel.
I think really you should not even try to talk to him. I have done this - I always texted my ex because I thought we were close, that I could go to him with my issues and my suicidal thoughts but it only scared him more away from me. Now he is totally out of my life.
I truly suggest to try so hard to discipline yourself. Don't talk to him, don't tell him what is happening to you - because chances are he may start to not even care and thats the worst feeling ever.
I know it is destructive but I went out and I met a guy and I had sex with him - it was decent, we got to know each other, had dinner together and spoke for hours through the night. I think maybe this could help you a bit. I know that it helped me get over my ex pretty well.
You can always message me if you need someone to talk to - I know I am a stranger but I don't want someone else to ever be in the situation i was once in.