I'm 24 and have been with my boyfriend for 6 months. In the beginning everything was amazing/awesome/great. We had so much chemistry and we treated each other like gold. Fast forward out of the honeymoon phase and now.. the real him is showing through. He isn't the sweet romantic guy I knew in the beginning. He makes comments about other women ( not often and not enough to make me go "ah ha!! you are an ass time to go") he told me he doesn't love me but that he likes me a lot.. but his actions don't follow through. He never shows affection and when he does it's right before sex. I'd say the past month things have been dying down. The excitment I mean. When did you know it was time to move on from a relationship?
Most Helpful Guy
You know it's time to break up when you know you don't want the rest of your life to be like it is with that person. Somewhere between the 3-6 month mark is where a person starts be "themselves" around. They feel comfortable enough around you that they aren't putting in extra effort to make a good impression on you anymore.
That's not a good or bad thing by itself, it's just human nature, but just realize that's how the person is going to be for the rest of your relationship. It extremely unlikely they will change. They may change temporarily if you break up with them or something else big in your lives happen, but very rarely do people decide to change who they are.
You've been together 6 months, so I'd say it's pretty safe to say that what you're getting from him now is what you will continue to get from him as long as you're together. So if you're not happy with that, time to move on and find someone who you really enjoy being with.8
Most Helpful Girl
you said it yourself~ he doesn't love you, and you aren't happy with the "real him"; therefore, i'd say that you've got your work cut out for you.
i sensed the end of my last relationship~ the guy was a good friend of mine, and the only reason i agreed to date him was because he was safe (i had been sexually assaulted by an ex) and i trusted him.
it went well for about a year. but, after a few months, things dropped off and our visits became less frequent. we were both too broken (me, from my assault, and him carrying a torch for an ex) and i realized that it wasn't working/we would never be more than just good friends. so, after some therapy, i found the courage to end it and move on. i was no longer a prisoner, and we were both young enough that we could still find happiness elsewhere.
i am now with a wonderful man who treats me like a queen and looks at me like he's won the lottery... you deserve the same, and this guy obviously isn't him.1