Me and this girl has been dating for 2 months now. I liked her so much at the beginning of summer and she was the first thing on my mind, and after awhile of dating. I don't love her anymore. I want to like her again at least but I can't get that feeling back. She's such a good girlfriend too. She pays for a lot of things for me when I'm broke, she nice, pretty, respectful, and she does everything I like her to do. She just sent a video of 2 old couple cuddling and she wrote "that's going to be us." I really want to call it off but at the same time, I don't want to hurt her cause I know how she'll feel. We mostly talk online now and we barely see each other. Like only once every 2 weeks. What do you think I should do? Should I just hang around with her and suck it up and make her happy? Or should I call it off? And how?
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It sounds with the :That's going to be us" video raw deal, it was more of a Big Ordeal and you have what I always refer to on here, dear, as "Cold duck feet." This is when someone is scared of Commitment and doesn't want to be hooked at the hip right now, nor is ready nor raring to be two Birds of a feather.
She has all of these qualities that turned you on and probably still Do.. Deep down. However, not seeing her for awhile, I believe that you will realize to your own eyes, that you will be Missing the Kissing. But as Glenda said to Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz: You wouldn't have believed me, you had to find out on your own.
You could sit her down, get off of line, tell her face to face, that things are going too fast , at you want to slow this down a notch and go slow, and for now, just see what happens
You could also take a long break, you could tell her, that you have personal issues that you need to address on your own, and give yourself some space and some time to find out if love is where the heart is Or... No place like home on my own alone.
Of course, there is the old friend wheeling and dealing but whatever you do, should you decide to go this way, don't make it a Friends with benefits naughty and nice with spice sticky situation... That gets complicated and someone always gets the short end of the broom stick.
Good luck. xx0