We have the same lunch period and unfortunately all of my friends sit at the other end of his lunch table so I've been sitting there. He stares at me through much of the lunch time and glances over at me a lot. A lot of guys stop by the table and talk to me and one guy who sits at the table likes me a lot as well. Guys also have come up to me and asked for my number while he was sitting right there. Well the last lunch period him and his friend had to sit down at my end of the table because of there not being enough space which pretty much left me and him directly across from each other. I've never looked him or stared at him while sitting at the table. If I look at him its rare and usually from the corner of my eye.
I really want to end this whole fighting because we're both 18 now and we've spent so much time on each other. I'm not saying I want to get back with him just that I think its a waste to lose all of that time on this. My friend told me that me sitting at the table just shows that I don't care about the situation and that I'm above the fighting, is that true? I'm not sure how to do that though? And why does he act like that towards me?
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Screw composure and being mature- this asshole is being completely disrespectful! He lied to you about the relationship, lied to the law enforcement about the property damage, and he will continue to lie. Additionally- he's a punk okay. This kid straight up knew you and was apparently (not) in-love with you during this 8 year relationship, and now that he is 18- he is acting like a jackass?
No... F-_- that! This kid needs to go to a psychoward or something... Mmmm I'm gonna bite my lip cause I can see you care about him.
Here's the reality:
- My ex then tried to say that I took a baseball bat to his truck, he really wrecked it himself
- Me and my ex aren't suppose to talk to each other
- He stares at me (Can anyone say pedophile / serial killer?)
[ I really want to end this whole fighting ]
There's no way to resolve this without lifting the restraints on your communication. If you lift those restraints (or he does) then you could do the following:
- Look at him in the eyes and say "It sucks that we couldn't get beyond this whole immature behavior, but thank you for the previous relationship, I learned alot." Then before he can respond- take your final glance at him, and walk away. After you do so, make a pact with yourself to never speak with him again.
THOUGH- I strongly recommend you don't lift the restraining order or the "no-talk order" because this guy could basically go psychopathic and really hurt you. I would hate to see that happen when you're trying to resolve the tension in this situation to live your life.
At all times- have a friend with you incase something happens ONLY as a witness. If your friend intervenes physically, the only thing he will have on his side is the self-defense statute of "The lesser of two evils" - Which states that he could do something of less "consequence" to prevent bodily injury to your or others.
- So if your ex raised a baseball bat and threatened you, while pulling his arm back to prepare for a swing in your direction, the statute may apply if he tries to intervene by disarming your ex.
Good luck, this isn't easy regardless, but the best thing to do is to move on. To each their own, play it smart.
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