Most Helpful Guy
You are as much to blame as your hubby is here !! There is something missing in this marriage that he is finding that this other woman is providing , if this marriage means anything to you and you care whether or not it will endure then YOU need to find out what it is and try to fix it. I'm not saying it's all your fault !! I'm sure he has plenty of faults ; some one here has to say what we are doing isn't working so we need to try something else more beneficial to this marriage. I have been guilty of this very thing myself , my wife saw my need and fixed it herself ; and to be honest I love her more for fighting for me rather than fighting with me.
Most Helpful Girl
Honestly, I think asking him to do anything to cut off ties with the other woman is absolutely pointless.
What I'm getting from you is that you think that by asking him to get rid of her on Facebook, somehow everything will be solved? I don't think so. Who's to say he can't just create another account (or already has an account) that you're not aware of? Who's to say there aren't other forms of communication and/or social media platforms he can't connect with her? It's pointless to ask him to do that because if he's cheated on you already, he's more likely to do it again... ESPECIALLY if he feels like you're forcing him to do things he may or may not want to do. He may be refusing to delete her or get rid of her simply to spite you because he may feel like this whole situation is suffocating him.
My question to you is, why do you refuse to leave him? If he refuses to absolutely cut off all ties with this other woman, why are you still holding onto him? Unless he's explicitly told you that he wants nothing more to do with this woman, and has proven to you that his cheating days are over and his 100% dedicated to you and putting every effort into repairing your marriage, and unless he's willing to be completely transparent with everything, then he's not worth the effort.