So I have read some of the books on getting your ex back and articles. So the common thing in all of them is no contact, some say 21, 30, 45 days of a period of no contact and even if your text calls or text dont respond. So one of these said that if your ex has a new boyfriend then you should do a breif time of 15 days nc and sat slowly building that atraction back towards you. texting and then phone calls and then a meet up for coffee or something. The logic behind it is to not try to break them up but to let the new guy break them up. The stress of her texting and calling me and then finally meeting me. who wouldn't be scared if your new girlfriend was texting and talking to her ex. The reason why im asking this is because my ex broke up with me a few days ago. leading up to this she was texting this one new guy all the time and snapchatting him. If she is going to start seeing someone new my money is on him. What are your thoughts if I do the 15 days of nc and then try and start building that attraction again?
Most Helpful Girl
If she is seeing someone else there is nothing you can do about it.
But yes! you must not contact her. I did not contact my ex and he starting reaching out barely a few days after leaving me in tears. I did not reply his first messages emails etc, and started replying. I call this the don' initiate contact + the limited contact rules :)
But to know how to act and what to response, look up coach corey wayne on youtube! He helped me a lot!
I had to adapt some advice since I'm a girl...0
Most Helpful Guy
The advice you should have been reading is to FIND A NEW FUCKING GIRLFRIEND.
No contact has ONE purpose -- to permanently eliminate another person from your life. The people who are telling you to try it for getting an ex back are teaching you to be emotionally abusive.
Let me say that again. Emotional abuse. Manipulation. Using no contact to get someone to "like" you again is Emotional abuse. A form of violence.
Get a new girlfriend. Talk to new people.1