I'm a premed and work full time as a assistant at a dental office. My boss who's a dentist pays me overtime sometimes to do paperwork and stay late nights on days when I don't have class. Although my schedule is busy, I try my best to incorporate my boyfriend in. I do love him and care a lot about him, but I know that I have to make a future for myself. He doesn't go to school, never bothered to go but he works at a restaurant full time and sometimes I visit him days off and drives him home as he doesn't have a car. He told me lastnight that he can't do this anymore. He can't continue to 'wait' for me. He says that he feels lonely and isolated. I felt slighted, like it was some slap in the face. All I tried to do was be the best I could. Pulling off straight A's, working hard and seeing him, if I couldn't we'd talk on the phone. I'm heartbroken that he'd do something like that. Was he wrong for that? Guys would you do this?
Most Helpful Guy
I had an Ex that left me because she was too busy for a relationship. I couldn't fault her for it. She had valid points, namely kids. We both loved each other very much but the timing was wrong. I think that last bit might apply to you as well.
You have a lot going on and it's not entirely fair to put someone through that. You want it all but timing is key. Every time my Ex was with me I thought I was taking her away from something more important. She assured me that I wasn't but the feeling kept eating at me anyways. It wasn't the waiting that bothered me, it was the reschedules which I couldn't argue with that bothered me. Being upset and understanding it was no one's fault hurt non stop. Got a headache just thinking about it.
Point is that if it's real love you have to hope that it will work out when the time is right for you both. No matter the pain she caused I still have hope we will see each other again.3
Most Helpful Girl
It sucks, but I don't think it's "wrong" necessarily, you guys are just incompatible.
He wants someone who's around a lot, he feels lonely and isolated with the way things are, etc. and you want someone who can handle the fact that you have a busy lifestyle and be happy even when you guys don't get to see each other as much.
I think he did both of you a favor. He wasn't happy in the relationship, so he shouldn't be made to stay. And you deserve someone who's supportive of your goals and can be happy with the amount of time you can spend with each other.
I think perhaps next time, I would choose a guy who's got a lot going on in his life as well, because neither of you will feel the separation as much then, since you're both quite busy. Good luck.6