Everyone is telling me not to acknowledge my ex bf's birthday. We broke up seven months ago, (I did the breaking up but only because he became distant and I thought that's what he wanted) and I've done a few small things to contact him since, but he's done nothing to talk to me and I don't know why because he was the one to say "we can still be friends". I just miss him so much and can't let him go... am I being stupid wanting to send this?
"I hope all good things come your way this year, and I want you to know I still care about you - always will - and hope you're doing well. :)"
Should I send this? Please explain why or why not.
Most Helpful Guy
In your position, I won't bother to recognise his birthday or send him that email. You broke up with him for the right reason. After the breakup, he hasn't acknowledged any of your correspondence.
Girl, he has activated a potent weapon called silence mode, used to reduce your social value. And it seems to be working, as evidenced by your desire to acknowledge his birthday.
If by sending the email or acknowledging his birthday is shrouded with the intention to win him back, please don't and don't do it. Your friends are 100% correct. Have you ever heard about this phrase: "People Pay Attention To What Matters To Them"?
You are paying attention to his birthday because he matters to you. The question is, do you matter to him? There lies the problem, girl.0
Most Helpful Girl
Are you trying to get back with him? If so, then send it. But if not, I wouldn't. Sounds to me like he was hurt by the break up.
I know if it was me, I would prefer not to hear from my ex. But every situation is different.
My ex boyfriend and I had to live with each other after the break up. It was both challenging and frustrating at times, but we made it through. I moved out finally and we still talk from time to time, We worked really hard to have the living situation work as we were locked in a lease. We changed our relationship from boyfriend and girlfriend, to ex's to friends.
We are on pretty good terms now. I would probably wish my ex a happy birthday. But the other ex's I have I ignore.
It's hard to go from being in a relationship to being ex's and then immediately be friends. You have to put work in. If you two haven't really contacted one another, then it's probably not a good idea to keep trying.
Sounds to me like he just wants some space. Especially if he hasn't responded to you at all.0