Everyone is telling me not to acknowledge my ex bf's birthday. We broke up seven months ago, (I did the breaking up but only because he became distant and I thought that's what he wanted) and I've done a few small things to contact him since, but he's done nothing to talk to me and I don't know why because he was the one to say "we can still be friends". I just miss him so much and can't let him go... am I being stupid wanting to send this?
"I hope all good things come your way this year, and I want you to know I still care about you - always will - and hope you're doing well. :)"
Should I send this? Please explain why or why not.
Most Helpful Guy
i wish my ex would send me this, but then again, she's a bitch (i got dumped)
Maybe he hasn't contacted you for 2 major reasons:
-male ego, since you dumped him he may think you should be the one contacting him since you were the one putting him out of your life.
-he just didn't care and doesn't care about you or being in your life.
you can get to a conclusion because you were the one in the relationship and know how the breakup was, and how he reacted or whatever.
but in which case, that email seems too emotional, i think you should put only this:
"I hope all good things come your way this year :) hope you are doing well" ..
thats a little bit more casual.
BUT if you want him back just talk to him lol I don't know, do something if you think you have a chance or he doesn't have a new girlfriend.2
Most Helpful Girl
Are you trying to get back with him? If so, then send it. But if not, I wouldn't. Sounds to me like he was hurt by the break up.
I know if it was me, I would prefer not to hear from my ex. But every situation is different.
My ex boyfriend and I had to live with each other after the break up. It was both challenging and frustrating at times, but we made it through. I moved out finally and we still talk from time to time, We worked really hard to have the living situation work as we were locked in a lease. We changed our relationship from boyfriend and girlfriend, to ex's to friends.
We are on pretty good terms now. I would probably wish my ex a happy birthday. But the other ex's I have I ignore.
It's hard to go from being in a relationship to being ex's and then immediately be friends. You have to put work in. If you two haven't really contacted one another, then it's probably not a good idea to keep trying.
Sounds to me like he just wants some space. Especially if he hasn't responded to you at all.0