I can't believe this has happened, it was all so sudden. My then boyfriend and me had been together 2 years, we were planning our future together to move away together and everything. We had had our ups and downs but he was quite lazy and immature and I used to nag a lot he found it hard communicating a lot which made things difficult, but through it all we loved each other. He dumped me last week and said he found being with me too stressful and a day later he messaged me saying he needed to talk, he was sad and realised he'd made the biggest mistake of his life. He said he needed to change and grow up and that he thought about marrying me a lot we had such a great week together and he was wonderful. On the weekend I got a bit moody at him as he was messing plans to meet up and he stormed off home saying he couldnt see me today and wanted space. I didn't understand and got upset and kept texting him about him not caring I was upset which probably got his back up I realise, but I was very apologetic the next day but he said it was over and deleted everything about our relationship off facebook. He said hed hope we could be friends eventually and didn't delete me as a friend but after all he's done why delete every part of my existence on his social media? He even deleted comments Id made on photos and everything, really thorough like. Then my friend found him on tinder, he had only joined that day it made me feel sick he could just move on that quickly He doesn't seem to feel bad at all. And I am hurting so much. Why is he doing this? I ended up deleting him off facebook, I started to feel hate for him treating me like this and being so disrespectful to just move on so quick. How could he throw everything way I got on with his family, and everything I was so good for him and now he's just walking away so easy. It hurts me so much, why is he so cold?
Most Helpful Guy
only read the heading.
he's doing it to put a physical barrier up between him and the relationship which he now wants in his past. for many after a breakup we need to emotionally wall off the past, and one way to do this is to physically wall it off... almost so you can't be reminded of it0
Most Helpful Girl
I actually recently went through a similar situation this past month. I've thought long and hard about. My ex broke up with me because he didn't want a future with marriage and kids for his life. He told me I deserve better and all of this nonsense. I would say a few days later found him on a dating site saying he is looking for long term and wants children. I, like you, was heartbroken and questioned everything. He also deleted on stuff off social media. The more i think about it I think they do this stuff so they don't have to deal with the pain of seeing the reminders and possibly questioning their decision in the end. Women hurt right away it takes time for men to feel it. You have to work on yourself and making you happy. He's being selfish and now is your time to be as well. Join a site, go out meet new people, indulge in things for yourself. It's not easy believe me I'm going through it now. It's going to be a rollercoaster but you have to think there is someone out there who wouldn't do that to you. I hope this helped a little. Not much people can say to make you feel better I know!0