I started seeing a man is his 40's with no children who never has been married. We would see each other almost every weekend and always have a date each weekend. I am 28 and have a 4 yr old so of course my time was limited. As all relationships go things were great in the beginning. I really thought he cared for me because he introduced me to his close married friends as well as his siblings. It had been about 2 years since he was with anyone. I guess I thought with the following signs above that things were going great and even more so, when his female friend who is married to his best friend said it had been a while since he has brought another woman around.
So last week things got a bit tense and he needed his space, which I gave to him. I had however been noticing little things here and there, like him not doing the sweet things for me like he used to. Well today I got a text from him basically saying how great of a person I was but how we should stop seeing each other because he cannot give me what I need. I am hurt, and i have cried but I accepted things as they were.
I find his actions weird because he was the one talking about the future, gazing into my eyes deeply and asked me to spend the night at his house in his bed. (no sex happened) I then awoke to an empty bed. I asked him and he says it was just "weird" having someone next to him. He also talked about wanting a "permanent" relationship with me. So I am just wondering if it sounds like he had issues with intimacy or perhaps was emotionally unavailable. I just find it strange that he'd do all of this and then bam want to break up.
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I think he freaked himself out a bit. He thought he was ready for the next step but found himself to do it. For him to stop with texting and then try to make leap into intimacy but found out he couldn't was enough to convince him he isn't ready to go beyond casual dating yet. Shame.0