Here's a little important background info. She broke up with me 8 months ago after a 1.5 year relationship because she missed me.. being in a long distance relationship. There was also another guy in the picture that contributed to our downfall. I truly loved this girl. I haven't loved anyone more to this day. Oh, she also started dating that guy after 4 months of leaving me.
She was my first girlfriend and first true love. I was her first true love. She wanted to be friends at first and I agreed. Stupid mistake. It hurt to be her friend because the feelings were still there so I ignored her for a couple weeks. She tried to be my friend again.. I agreed.. Then I ignored her for another 3 weeks. She just kept asking me and I had the feeling that I wanted her in my life, but it hurt too bad then. Then one night she called me like 6 times and texted me as well. I ignored all of them until the next day. That's when I told her I'm sorry for ignoring her, it won't happen again and I truly want to be friends now. That's what she wanted all along. We talked as friends for one day and then she went silent. It's been 3 weeks since she's talked to me.
Now that you have the background story, here's my problem. She pestered me to be her friend for months, and then now that I am, she makes absolutely no effort. I have no desire to talk to her because I'd rather she talk to me. Her actions are speaking louder than words and I feel like I made a mistake in wanting to be her friend. Why do girls do this? There has to be a reason
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It's funny that I had that same situation with my ex. At times when people break up it's hard to not have that special person that you shared so much in your life so you try to do anything to have a kind of bond with that person. But in my case all my ex wanted is to be friends with me so that when he felt lonely he would have someone to go to and to show off that he was doing better than me. I think the best thing you can do is take time away from that person and try to heal and be by yourself and when you feel that you have nothing against her or you don't feel the same way you did before then you can try to be friends with her. At times it's very hard to be friends with exes that haven't gotten out of the I maybe still into you stage. Because if you get a girlfriend or she gets a boyfriend things can get complicated. I hope I helped and good luck!1