When I was around his friends, they were astounded by his behavior. They never seen him share the way he does with me. I could tell that he was into me. There were times when we'd be out and he'd be sitting across the table from me just staring into my eyes deeply and he discussed the future. Well a few days ago I got a text from him basically saying that I was a great person but he does not think he can give me what I need in a relationship and that he does not THINK we'd be happy in the long term so we should stop seeing each other.
Of course I was hurt, BUT I told him I understood but I do like him but if things are not mutural I get it. I could tell he was catching feelings, but you see he has never been married and is in his early 40s. My question is why do guys run when you can sense they are catching and is it possible to get him back. I have not been texting him or anything and it's only been like day 3.
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He figures he has nothing to offer you that another guy won't have a better version of, so he is cutting the ties now before he gets too attached to minimise the hurt he'll feel when you inevitably (in his mind) dump him.
If you have any insecurities or low self-esteem or related issues, it is remarkably easy to self-sabotage or otherwise convince yourself that you are unattractive and undesirable, and it's only through dumb luck that you've even gotten this girl going out with you in the first place. In the most extreme cases this causes martyrdom like you see here: the guy is basically turning you loose to get the dream guy he thinks you deserve rather than stupid ugly him.