Some days he just wants to "shut the world out" (as he calls it) and can't deal with anything.
On top of it, he's an introvert and likes a lot of alone time anyway.
We had been fighting a lot the past couple months and finally broke up 5 nights ago. Usually we fix things after fighting, but this time was different.
He told me that he's unhappy with himself, where he is with his life (his career isn't going as planned and he has multiple classes to take soon) his depression is affecting things, etc. He said he can't be happy with someone else til he's happy with himself. He says he just wants to be alone and doesn't want a relationship right now no matter who it's with.
He's saying he needs to take at least a year to get himself sorted and stuff.
He told his friend that if we'd met at a different time in his life that he thinks we'd have been a long term relationship (we were only together 4 or 5 months).
This guy friend of mine knew we had broken up and called me last night and asked me on a date.
My ex freaked out and got super, super angry. He said, "What just happened should show you how much you going out with someone else bothers and upsets me and how much I still love you." and says he still loves me and cares about me.
How can you love someone so much and let them go?
Also, he doesn't seem very upset and his life seems to carry on as normal (although he says he is. He says he's good at hiding and ignoring his emotions)
When he said that he was going to wait at least a year before dating again, I mentioned that I wouldn't wait that long (I didn't mean waiting for him; I meant it wouldn't be a year before I dated again) but he thought I meant waiting for him and he said, "You weren't expecting me to come back were you?"
I'm not saying I'd want to wait around but I'm already upset about the breakup and it feels really personal even though he swears it's not.
I'm 21 and he's 26 by the way.
Most Helpful Guy
some of you need a lesson in brevity. srsly.0
Most Helpful Girl
Honestly, when you love someone, you are willing to let them go in order to ensure their happiness. He isn't healthy enough to be in a strong, prosperous relationship, so in all honesty he did the 100% right thing in breaking up with you. I am sure he still loves you very much but knows that he doesn't have it in him to have a good relationship with you. He's being actually very considerate.
However, he can't exactly have the expectation that you're going to wait on him either. It is up to you and your discretion if you want to move on or not. That is your choice, ultimately.0