So, there's this guy.
Yes, I know that line is the most cliche way to start any sort of post on anything, but this story takes a twist. I met this guy online and he seems really nice. I know for a fact that we live pretty far away (three or four states). We talked for three hours tonight, and he seems to have a lot of emotional baggage. In the moment, I was super kind and supportive because I figured I'd never talk to this kid again. However, we became Facebook friends and he followed me on Instagram. The problem is, I realized after the fact that I don't want this guy constantly hounding me. When we were chatting online, he even told me he loved me (platonically, but still). I deleted my account on the site we met on because it was a stupid website anyways, but, now that I feel the need to ghost this guy, I know that I would have to unfriend and block him on Facebook and Instagram so that he can't find me and interrogate me as to why I stranded him. After just two hours of me being supportive of him in the moment, this guy's completely emotionally attached to me, and I don't know what to do. He's seen a lot of bad stuff and has a lot of abandonment issues and, as much as I'd love to be his supporter through all this, it's stressing me out and I don't feel like I should feel morally obligated to take care of this guy I don't know. Any advice?
- Ghost him; This situation's weird enough alreadyVote A
- Ghost him; You shouldn't feel morally obligated to take care of himVote B
- Don't ghost him; He's emotionally unstable and needs youVote C
- Don't ghost him; That'd be mean, and this kid would hunt you downVote D
Most Helpful Guy
Be honest, let him know your the wrong person to be leaning onto for support, and that it has made you totally uncomfortable with him.
I disagree with complete ghosting or a bs story to save his feelings, that's not helping him at all. Be a friend, and tell him the hard facts that he has to hear.
Secondly don't feel bad, I have been on both sides of the story, it's not your responsibility to help him heal !!! He needs to look within himself for those answers0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
I think ghosting him would just make it worse tbh. Just tell him you are REALLY busy and have a lot of stuff going on so you don't have time to be a good friend right now. That way you can still use your stuff but you don't have to block him or anything. He'll drift naturally.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE