I was dating a guy for 5 months and we broke up because he wasn't over his ex-girlfriend. We were "no contact" for 2 months and then he texted me out of the blue and said that he was buying a condo next by me. He was saying how great he was doing and then he said he missed me. I told him that I missed him, too. We talked for a little while more and he talked about getting back together.
He eventually flaked on me and said that he was still in love with his ex. I was so hurt and broken that I ended up cussing him out and said some pretty horrible things to him. He didn't try to defend himself and said that he deserved everything that I called him and then started apologizing. He came clean and said that he lied about buying a condo by me. When I asked him why he lied about so much he said “because I’m a fucked person.”
I know after all the other stuff he’s lied about this shouldn’t be a big thing but it jumped out at me. He already lives pretty close to me so it’s not like he’s across town. And why a condo? He lives in a tiny studio now, why jump to a condo? He doesn't have money like that. He could barely afford to take me to dinner. He couldn't afford the rent in my neighborhood if he tried. I knew that when I started dating him but I didn’t care. It’s not like we were talking about money, he started the convo off with that lie. Like “hey, how are you? I’m buying a condo next to you.”
My brother seems to think it’s because I’m at a better place in my life than him. I have a better apartment and job. He seems to think that he was intimidated by that. To me that’s stupid because I didn’t make him feel that way. I never made him feel bad that he didn’t have a lot. At least I don't think I did.
Why do you think he lied? Do you think my brother is right?
Most Helpful Guy
It could be that he was emotional at the moment and didn't really think through what he was saying. But he wanted to make you jelly most likely. Either way, move on.1
Most Helpful Girl
Your brother is spot on. Some guys are just irrationally competitive and he will keep trying to hurt you. Truth is he probably doesn't care about his ex but it's a weapon to hurt you with. Stay away from him the more you entertain him the more annoying it will be. He's jealous of you and leaps into lies before he thinks. I had an ex that was unbelievably obsessed by the fact I was 2 years older than him. It's like they thrive on some inner insecurity and use it to bash you with. Find a real man :)1