I've been reading John Gray's Mars and Venus Starting Over and I started to read about forgiveness and letting go of resentment in order to move on.
Here's a passage from the book:
"When we feel resentful, our biggest challenge is to say goodbye with forgiveness and love. Although we have a right to feel resentful, our new challenge is to remember the love we once felt and then forgive our ex-partner for his mistakes. By taking the time to grieve our loss fully, it is eventually possible to release all our resentments and to wish our partner well."
Is it me or does this sound like superficial bs? Why would I need to forgive someone and wish someone well who has opened up a world of hurt that I never felt existed?
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Because now with that painful experience you have learned a valuable lesson. May have never needed to happen but it is something that will make you respect those who haven't hurt you even more.
Those are the people that need your full attention. (You may have not met yet) however you will be more open and ready when your full heart and attention is focused on them rather than some jerk in your past.
Resentfulness is a killer. It closes you off and makes you bitter. people pick up on that and sense you have emotional turmoil.
I know people that are bitter still alone and have a hard time making close friends. All while they are complaining and bringing up old past deeds by someone who is long gone from their lives. AND most likely don't think about them in the least.
Forgiving and letting go and wishing them the best in life is exactly what we need to do to grow and be OK in life.
We get what we give. So forgive and live!0