I've been married for several years. I also suffer from depression and anxiety, and ADD. This makes simple things more difficult for me. For years my wife has been asking me to listen to her, and I do. I put everything I can into making sure I understand her, but I still forget a lot of things and she takes this as me not caring. I've tried to explain that I really do, but she says she doesn't see me caring. Recently I've been trying harder than ever despite no longer having a therapist but it seems things are just getting worse. I fight through my depression and anxiety to force myself to do anything. I try to take notes on my life so I don't forget things. I am communicating better than I have since we've been married. I think it's just too late now though. No matter what I do she's angry with me. And aside from small moments when we're sharing a laugh, I do nothing but annoy her. In the past few months, I can count the number of mornings that haven't started by me getting yelled at on my fingers. It seems like sometimes I don't even have to have done anything to get yelled at. I apoligize and say I'll do better but I often fall back into the same ruts. I want to change and I try to change but I can't make it stick. Because of my anxiety I don't yell back. I often freeze up and can't say anything which only makes her more angry.
Is it my fault?
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No. It is not your fault. I know that I am young and may not know about all of that stuff, but before I was adopted, I'd felt that kind of stuff with my dad. He used to yell at me for forgetting things and because he got in trouble for my being born. His girlfriend hated the fact that I was alive because I wasn't really her daughter.
It is not something that is your fault. If you are trying your best, and that you care, then you are doing nothing wrong. You are trying and even though not everything is going well, you keep trying.
Part of loving someone is accepting who they are, even if they drive you mad.
Sorry for my rant, but to sum up, no you are not doing anything wrong.
Best wishes, hope everything goes well,