My ex husband just started dating someone new, well she's not new because I have talked to her many of times when she was SELLING OUR HOUSE... yes my ex's new girlfriend is our realtor. My ex just told me that he took his elementary school kids out on a field trip that's gonna be all day, so his girlfriend is now watching our child!! I don't want some random chick looking after or even touching my child... I don't want him to think he has a new mom or that this chick is relevant to our parenting process. I'm really worried because now my ex is trying to get custody on the weekends!! My son is only 3 and his father has never spent more than 10 hours alone with him in his ENTIRE LIFE.. I see new, very expensive clothes every time my ex brings him back and when I ask who bought it, he says that his girlfriend did.. this is not her child and I don't want them to get custody so that they can play house.. I'm just so confused.. need advice on how to deal with this
Most Helpful Guy
As long as she doesn't poison them I guess its okay lol. Shame on you for divorcing him0
Most Helpful Girl
When court comes around make sure you tell the judge exactly what you just told us. Your ex husband has spent barely any time with YOUR child! This is NOT a father at all! Him and her are simply trying to gain custody out of spite. Here's the thing; I wouldn't put too much of the blame on her though. He is probably filling her head with a bunch of lies and is trying to make out like he is parent of the year to simply impress her. Given the fact that she does not know your side of the story, she believes him and is trying to help with what he has made out like he deserves. Any man or woman would do this if they truly believed it was the right thing to do.
Do you have any solid proof that your ex husband has been remotely absent throughout your child's life? The more proof the better. Normally I believe that fathers deserve as much of a chance than a woman does. However, in this sort of situation (where I have been through something similar), I am with you 100%. A child should not be used as a pawn in someone's games, much like your son has been made into by his father.
I hope things work out for you!!!0