My ex and i broke up 7 months ago, 4 months of no contact at all and he messaged me saying he was sorry about the break up and regretted it, that he does still like me, that he'd panicked becuase he'd been so busy and stressed, that 80% of our problems were his fault, and that he still wanted to be with me and get back together, that hed felt like that for a while but had been to scared to tell me. we talked a few more times
Then 2 months later me up in person to talk about it. He repeated all the same stuff about having strong feelings for me, never felt like this before, missed everything about me etc but was convinced we would have the same problem so we couldnt get back together and we both needed to move on.
I dont get the point in this at all...
If anyone could explain to me if it was all a lie? why won't he try again when he brought it back up?
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I think I'm in the first part of your situation. Broke up with my ex and want to get back together. But as I look at the second part, it seems that I can only really think of a few reasons he would act like this. The first and what I think is the most likely is that he isn't really interested in getting back together, but he is simply panicking about being broken up and is reaching out for someone. Then he realized that he isn't really that interested in dating you exactly so he changed his mind because he doesn't want to actually hurt you. The other reason is that he is looking for some kind of closure so he can move on with his life. There is a smaller possibility that he wants to see if you're truly invested in trying to make it work with him. His fear is taking over and he's letting that manipulate his emotions and actions in his response to you. If you really like him and want to try to get back with him, I suggest you sit down with him and let him explain to you why he thinks it won't work. More importantly, address this exact question and tell him that you are willing to work with him. Fear seems to dictate a lot of our actions, and it's possible he just needs someone to take hold of him and ground him. Not the easiest of tasks, but it all comes down to what you want to do.0
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