My ex and I had a great relationship. We only stopped seeing each other because he was having issues with depression and started going through a really confusing time trying to figure out his life. We haven't talked in a couple months, but I haven't gone a day without thinking about him. We never ended things or even talked about anything. We just stopped talking. It's driving me crazy. I still worry about him and I just wish I had some closure. He is the only person I've dated that I actually loved. I hate that it ended so abruptly. How can I get closure? I don't even know what I'd say if I tried to talk to him again.
Most Helpful Guy
It sounds you have a million things you want to say to him. Without telling him those thoughts, your mind will never be at ease... even years later, it may still eat away at you. I would list out all the things you want to say to him, and either call him up for a coffee or write him a letter. If I were you, I'd call him for coffee because it allows two-way dialogue.
Having closure in an important relationship is very important. I had a similar situation where my first girlfriend and I broke off a 7-year relationship very suddenly. I broke it off and quickly got interested in other things (career, business) and because my mind was occupied, I never felt that painful loss. I never called her after we broke up, and it wasn't until 2-3 years later, I started to wonder how she was, and whether she was angry at me for never calling to reconcile or talk after such a lengthy relationship.
It ate away at me for almost 10 years, and I would even have dreams that I'd bump into her and she would ignore me. It was a loose end that never got resolved in my life. One night, I had a very vivid dream that she and I were sitting together for coffee and we discussed everything I had on my mind... why we broke up, what happened, and that I always wanted her to be happy.
Even though it was a dream 10 years after the relationship, when I woke up, I felt a great burden lifted off my shoulders. I still think about it now, but it does not bother me like before.0
Most Helpful Girl
Write him a goodbye letter. It has worked for me in the past..
It sucks I know0