All in all it was a pretty good relationship.(4 years) He treated me pretty good, hardly ever had any arguments.
I've noticed the last month he's been stressed out and stuff but didn't bother him about it, just told him i was here if he wanted to talk and asked if there was anything i could do.
He came by as he had planned on Sunday, well it was actually supposed to be Saturday night after work, i made his favorite for dinner and then i got a text that he ws exhausted and would come Sunday. So he comes Sunday around 1pm, is pretty quiet, apologizes for not coming the night before. we really didn't talk much at all the whole day. We had planned to watch our show together which would end around 10pm before he went home.
at 7pm i started cleaning up and getting my kids ready for bed, at about 8 he comes out of the room and says he needed to talk to me. I sit down, he says his rides coming to get him and he's leaving. then the whole "i need to figure out my life, its not you its me, i really love you but you deserve better". I didn't even have time to process it all, i was just angry. THis has happened before but he came back and told me he couldnt be without me and how much he loved me and blah blah blah, he also said hed never do this to me again.
He left his keys on my dresser, got his coat on and then said "i love you, bye" and that was it.
Its day 4 now, i haven't heard anything from him, i haven't bothered to contact him either, nor social media stalk. A part of me wants to give him a couple weeks to himself. IF he hasn't contacted me by then (2 weeks is the longest he's ever gone without contacting me when he gets like this) then its time to erase him completely, unfriend, unfollow.
I think im just confused right now. if he tries contacting me do i hear him out, give him a chance with conditions. Or do i just cut my losses altogether and never speak with him again?
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It sounds like a full Circle Problem Pattern is starting here, dear, and This time, with 'He left his keys on my dresser...' he means Business and wants his Own 'Business Back so he can be his own straw boss now as he flies the coup from you and the little ones.
He has been trying to tell you in a round about way, although Not with Complete lines of convo, that he doesn't want to be in a Real relationship right now, wants his space and to be free to be a bird who is not two birds of a feather.
He may have been feeling this Rut he was in, being you have kids, and other things that have 'Stressed' him out lately, things that have been coming on and have come on.
He may need time to be alone to do some serious soul searching. However, with a guy who is flutter brained like this one is, he may come around but leave town again and never be settled because he doesn't know which end is up, which can be frustrating for you and put a sour ball in your own mouth whenever it goes south.
Take this time for yourself now to do your own thinking. I do believe he will come calling again, perhaps even with his tail between his legs. It's your choice, your call, with what I have told you, the writing on the wall and All... He is not dependable nor reliable.
Good luck. xx0