I've noticed the last month he's been stressed out and stuff but didn't bother him about it, just told him i was here if he wanted to talk and asked if there was anything i could do.
He came by as he had planned on Sunday, well it was actually supposed to be Saturday night after work, i made his favorite for dinner and then i got a text that he ws exhausted and would come Sunday. So he comes Sunday around 1pm, is pretty quiet, apologizes for not coming the night before. we really didn't talk much at all the whole day. We had planned to watch our show together which would end around 10pm before he went home.
at 7pm i started cleaning up and getting my kids ready for bed, at about 8 he comes out of the room and says he needed to talk to me. I sit down, he says his rides coming to get him and he's leaving. then the whole "i need to figure out my life, its not you its me, i really love you but you deserve better". I didn't even have time to process it all, i was just angry. THis has happened before but he came back and told me he couldnt be without me and how much he loved me and blah blah blah, he also said hed never do this to me again.
He left his keys on my dresser, got his coat on and then said "i love you, bye" and that was it.
Its day 4 now, i haven't heard anything from him, i haven't bothered to contact him either, nor social media stalk. A part of me wants to give him a couple weeks to himself. IF he hasn't contacted me by then (2 weeks is the longest he's ever gone without contacting me when he gets like this) then its time to erase him completely, unfriend, unfollow.
I think im just confused right now. if he tries contacting me do i hear him out, give him a chance with conditions. Or do i just cut my losses altogether and never speak with him again?
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I went through a similar thing with my boyfriend. He was stressed out and cut me out of his life. It wasn't me, it was him, he felt bad because he didn't have time for me, I deserve better, etc. He probably just needs some space to cool off and get through whatever he's going through. For my boyfriend, that took two months. I guess it really boils down to how long you want to wait, if you feel like it's a lost cause of not, things like that. Maybe see if he minds you contacting him every so often to see how things are. With mine I used to send him a message every morning and night with encouragement and such. I didn't always get a reply but when I did it made everything seem worth it. I hope things work out for you!0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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