ny ex and i were on and off for 8 months but have stayed close to eachother for 2 years and talk almost everyday. it is obvious we both still have feelings for eachother, but he's been with his girlfriend for over a year now although they did date before him and i, he was just never happy so he ended it and then eventually met me but he ended up getting back together with her and i ended up getting a boyfriend, we had been together for almost 7 months and just broke up last night. my ex invited me to his house in hopes he could cheer me up and it did, and eventually we ended up kissing and then having sex. now my boyfriend or ex i guess, wants to get back together. I don't know what to do because i still love my ex (the one with the girlfriend) but i dont want to wait around until he finally breaks up with his girlfriend. and i still kind of like my boyfriend but he's way to controlling and keeps saying he'll stop but then he's right back at it. someone help:(!!
Most Helpful Guy
That's tough. I suggest you take a week to yourself and don't try with either. If you're a serial monogamous dater then your best bet is to date a third person and take it really slow. So like no sex or anything. You might end up liking the third guy better and if you don't that's ok. You'll have time to gauge where you're at and you'll have to opportunity to see how your two ex'es feel about you. Right now they can both read your neediness and this decreases your value. They're both in control. Get some control back.0
Most Helpful Girl
What do you do? Take a hard, honest look at yourself as a woman and ask if this is really the type of person you want to be. The type of person who willingly, knowingly agrees to be a catalyst to someone else's heartache. The type of woman who doesn't mind making her body a playground for a guy knowing that she's not his first choice. Is this really what you want to do with your existence? Settle for one guy who is way too controlling and never changes or another guy who just showed you he can't be trusted because he's a cheater who thought his d*ck was more important than his girlfriend's heart?
What you need to do is forgive yourself for knowingly sleeping with him because that was f*cked up and extremely sh*tty. Then promise to never do something like that again. Because that type of woman that you described will never know what it's like to be loved on a certain level due to what she's made of; selfishness, deceit, self-absorption, inconsideration, and tactlessness. Next thing you need to do is stop focusing on these two guys and start focusing on cultivating your own happiness without the help of a man's d*ck or presence.4
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