3 hours ago my boyfriend came to get his things(he was about to move in). 4 days ago I got mad cause he wasn't trying to talk to me. I said let me know what you want to do about our relationship. He came over and said 'i don't know what to do but get my stuff and stay with my aunt'. I was dumb-founded. He left, then I called saying I can't believe everything I do for you & give you, you got giant balls to treat me like this. He was saying because he is stressed over his hours at school, money, giving his car back to his mom...he doesn't want to be bothered with me getting mad. I asked so does that mean you don't love me...cause I thought when your having a hard time, you want the person you love around. He jus kept saying 'i can't make you happy'. All I wanted was a call or text. I've been crying this whole time cause he was literally all I had, gave him everything I could for a whole year(I was going to get him a pitbull for valentines day/one year anniversary). We have broken up a couple of times cause of this but I think this time is for good. I'm feeling used & like he didn't love me. I'm trying to think about all the bad things and how he doesn't deserve me but I'm not feeling better... what can I do?
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I'm sorry you are hurt, as it sounds like you really put yourself into the relationship. I can really relate because I'm a pretty big giver too. I know that even though my ex-wife was bad to me I had a hard time letting go too, as I had put all of myself into a relationship that simply wasn't going to work. The best advice I can give you on how to help with how you feel is to network with your friends and try to go out and have some fun with them, do some of the things you like to do and try and find other activities to do that have a deep emotional meaning for you. This will help fill in some of the holes in your heart, and you might find that maybe he wasn't as meant to be as you once thought. Granted I know it will take some time, but you might begin to realize that maybe you are better off without him, and that you deserve to be in a relationship where your mate will put in as much into the relationship as you. It is my opinion that relationships are about giving, not giving and taking. I say this because if both people are giving to each other, it develops a good cycle of giving and receiving and this helps develop an even stronger bond between both parities involved. I hope this helps some, and that you are feeling better soon.0