I have been with my fiance for 2 years and he proposed to me a year ago.
A few months ago I noticed he added his ex back on to Facebook. I thought nothing of it because I trust him. He started to act strange a week after the add, like he's sat right next to me but he's not actually here, he was so distant and then he started to come around again but something still wasn't right.
Up until 2 days ago, I was happy until he admitted he had been seeing his ex behind my back for the last year and that I shouldn't blame or get angry at her but him and that he doesn't deserve forgiveness. He's admitted he has stronger feelings for her then he does for me.
I don't know what to do anymore I feel so broken I can't live without him... should I forgive him or move on?
Most Helpful Guy
First off, you CAN live without him. Right now I'm sure it's tough and there's a lot of feelings and emotions going through you, which is to be expected. But look on the bright side, at least you found out who this guy really is BEFORE you got married, and he was honest with you that he's more interested in some other girl than you. You deserve better than that, and there is someone out there who's going to be even better to you and will respect you how you should be.
I'm sure it's not going to be easy or happen over night, but be glad you know where things stand and start making moves in the right direction to move on with your life right now. Don't rush into another relationship, take some time off to take care of yourself and spend time with your friends and family and allow them to be there for you.
It feels like the end of the world right now, but you're young and there ARE other people out there who you eventually can start meeting, and there IS someone out there who will be head over heels for you and will be honest and loyal to you and you alone.
Keep your head up and keep putting one foot in front of the other, one day at a time. You'll get through this, and there is light at the end of the tunnel.1
Most Helpful Girl
I will admit that being as wise an owl that I am, it is Better to know the truth the whole truth and Nothing but the Truth before walking down that aisle here, Dear... Because now you cannot Trust him as far as you could throw that bouquet.
He has Openly Admitted about this ghost from his past and it appears she isn't this blast but One who along with him putting her Back on the Book, This is the demise it has led to with your own relationship, that now has rattled your own chains.
He is still in love with the skeleton of yesterday and there is no bones about it. You need now to walk away, try and Begin a new Beguine of licking your war wounds and find someone whom isn't tied to tomorrow's sorrows.
This will only Continue down a beaten path, Become a Full circle Problem pattern and no matter how you slice that wedding cake, she is the one he will take.
Good luck. xx0