It's hard for me to be his friend knowing that he broke my heart and he is now my ex, but I still want to make him happy.
What do you think is more fair, to take my feelings into consideration and not be his friend, or to make him happy by being his friend?
Most Helpful Guy
- being his friend =you won't be able to continue in your life+ friendship will filled with jealousy and repressed feelings lead to desperation
- not to be his friend= self-esteem+ new opportunities, new skills, different thoughts (positive) and new life.
your happiness is more important than his happiness, be selfish and choose your
Most Helpful Girl
You can't move on while you're still friends!!! Seriously. Soon enough he'll get another girlfriend or will start dating another girl, and the hurt of actually seeing that will be pretty intense :S Just have a nice clean break so you can move on.
If you don't want to lose him from your life, just leave it at least a few months before you return to being friends. Immediately after a break up you both need your space.
Also, thats a major red flag for a guy being a player! The last guy who broke up with me wanted to "stay friends" and then ended up shagging me a few times and it just being "casual". Me thinking we were re-kindling stuff and then he tries to pull a girl with me there and says "what? there's no emotions here". It was really painful, breaking up but still being friends? It's like having their cake and eating it too. No. Just not a good idea in any scenario, especially when you're the one with feelings and he doesn't have them.1