my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years now. We'r both 28. His financial situation basically sucks and it's always been that way since we've been together. He doesn't make much money at all and pays for a lot. I make more than him so i'm almost always the one who pays for everything when we go out. Fast forwarding to now, he's feeling overwhelmed over his financial situation and he feels like he needs to make his situation better alone. This hurts so bad because i've been with him for years now and the situation is still the same, so why break things off now? I told him that we should break up over money, and i know that things will get better eventually. He knows i'm frustrated, but i'm willing to stick by him. We had this conversation last week, but things haven't been the same... he's been really distant. Yesterday he told me that he knows how much he loves me, he knows he's going to marry me, and how he's going to propose, but he feels like he needs to be single right now. He said that it's okay if i date other people cause he knows that that's going to happen, but for me to know that he can't be the best possible boyfriend i need him to be or move forward with our future until he gets his financial situation together. I just don't agree. Again, I've been with him all along. I just don't know why we can't be together. I understand if he needs space while he's going through this, like i shouldn't mention him being distant and stuff, but i don't think we should end things.
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I would leave him, not being materialistic, but if a person is struggling and loves someone they would be willing to receive help. I went through a similar situation w/my ex and I could no longer take the fact that he wasn't willing to step up in life and make a better life for himself. It would be fine if it was just him by himself, whatever, but he wanted to marry so you better bet that I want a man who can work w/me. He always told me he needed to do things "on his own", but I saw he made no effort. I sometimes lack ambition and I always accept help. I think my ex no longer wanted to be w/me and that could be what your boyfriend is doing to let you down gently.0