do you agree that divorcing or dumping a SO is the only solution if one partner has a higher sex drive than the other partner has little to 0 sex drive?
I'm not talking about one partner having less sex drive that's a little, I'm not talking about a little less I mean one partner having almost a non existent sex drive, they want to have sex but once a week or 4 times a month
Most Helpful Guy
I think that sex is a way for two people to connect... if you are married or attached, sex, contrary to popular opinion, is not just about the guy and him getting his rocks off and the sensual feelings that go with it. Sex is a very important way for a guy to connect with his partner... you'll find that after sex, a guy opens up, is more vulnerable and honest... which is why, if a guy is more promiscuous, he is wanting to get out of there after the deed, as he is wanting to escape from a pending commitment...
So, the fact that there is no sex occurring, would indicate that the couple are not connecting, communication is low and the couple have fallen into a routine which neither know how to fix or freshen up. Therefore, is divorce the only option? I would say, no, but for the relationship to work, pride will have to be swallowed on both parts, and an understanding that in order for the spark to be injected back into the relationship, sometimes we have to face a bit of confrontation. A spark is created by friction, which can be unpleasant initially, but in the end, you'll be cooking!1
Most Helpful Girl
I do not agree that divorcing or dumping SO is the only solution if one partner has no sex drive. I would say it's the easy (and perhaps selfish!) way tho...
Often lack of sex drive is due to a underlying physiological or psychological condition. So perhaps communication and compassion would be a solution, if they care and love their partner? Trying to talk and figure our what is actually going on? People can change one way (more sex drive) or the other (less sex drive) in time... nothing is set in stone!0