earlier this week I found that he's been taking pictures of himself and send it to one person in snapchat who he already had a conversation with
so I opened his snapchat from my device and I found out that he talked to a girl which he changed her name to (wrinkles) I don't know why
but he wrote (good morning❤️) and I think that he also has her pictures and maybe he made a collage of it and send it to her
this girl is in the best friend list which means he send videos a lot to her
and I found that when he send me a video or a pic he send it to her and to another one so its not just me!
i really love him and can't imagine my life without him
so I sent him a long text saying that if I caught him good I will leave the house without telling him because it's not the first time but that didn't effect him and continued to talk to her
but I seriously don't know what to do
I don't want to be a jealous wife but I seriously can't trust him
he made go through his things
and I know if I opened his photo album in his phone that I'll find a lot of girls
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I remember reading something in a book a long time ago, "But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart." There are few things more difficult than marriage, especially when you've reached the point of not being able to trust them. It's clear that in his mind he is slipping by unscathed for his actions. And though you were clear in your own wording, action can only be countered with action. You need to be more proactive in this with him. Defining very well that this sort of behavior is unacceptable and viewed as cheating. If he wants to bring up your behavior of who you are talking to, simply agree. But not to use your actions (good or bad) as a cover for his own. It's like holding you hostage and justifying his own actions. There is no excuse for cheating no matter how small it might appear. It all comes down to the hallowed commitments that you both made each other. To honor and respect each other. The easy answer it to just leave him but you also made a commitment to fight for the marriage. To put him before yourself. I'm not saying he's right, but you did marry him so working towards a resolution is part of your responsibility. I highly suggest marriage counseling. It will really help when you have someone who can sit down and hear both sides and help you work though the issues that you are both going though. You aren't the only one struggling. He's also having a difficult time and this behavior is a result of that difficult time. I'm not saying it's you, but it is something and you need to find out what that thing is. Maybe he's been feeling disconnected since you got married or he regrets getting married. Whatever the reason, he clearly is reaching out to other girls for attention and is willing to defend those actions. Focus on the positive and try to stay positive as you work this out with him. But also remember that you have limits and to not over do yourself. You're still human and need to make sure you're taking care of yourself. Any relationship needs two people working for it's success so this should be clear you can't do it alone. You need him to try as well. It won't be easy but it is possible. Focus on the why and go from there.