Me and boyfriend been dating about 4months. (Yea I know not that long to like someone). We had a lot in common as well, and seem like I knew him forever. Recently he broke up with because he thought I was cheating on him when I told him I was running errands. I know he has insecurities but didn't think it was serious enough to break up with me because of assumptions. Or they way he was feeling. I left my phone in the car trying to get to the place and back home in time for our day together, he text me and said we are done, you are out there with another man. You not answering the phone I never want to hear from you. I got my mind made up am staying single. I been texting/calling him but, am guessing its time to fall back. He just wants to be friends. I don't know why would he want to throw everything we was building away because of insecurities. Help me?
Most Helpful Guy
How do you cope? Get up in the morning and go to bed at night. You have no choice but to cope and you're already doing it. Now, if you're really asking, "how do I feel better about it?" That's achieved through honesty.
However, you're not likely to achieve honesty at this moment given your emotional desires have just been crushed, but most things become known in hindsight.
It wasn't a good relationship and it was never meant to work... when you align your thought process with that statement, things will start looking up.0
Most Helpful Girl
The best way to cope up with any break up is to delete their number, delete them from social media and take away any reminders to them. It's probably the most difficult step out of the lot but once you cross that hurdle it will make healing a lot faster for you. You cannot dwell on the past and the "what if's". It's pointless to try to understand a ex's motives and reasons for doing things as you'll never get a real answer out of them. The closure you need is to realize he was the one who ended it and didn't want to be with you anymore for whatever reasons (even if it seems illogical to you). It's not a reflection of you or anything you did. Neither is it really a reflection of him as we cannot force people to want to be with us if they don't want to. However it is a reflection that the two of you are not compatible with one another and you that the universe has someone more suitable for you. You'll be OK and try to not think of things you don't have real answers for and do yourself a favor and delete that number xx0