I found out the man I've been dating for the past 8 months is MARRIED!! I'm so hurt, angry, and emotional. He did NOT tell me he's married & never gave any indication that he is. I confronted him & basically he's too much of a jerk to apologize or face me for what he's done. I feel bad for his wife but she's mad at me, when she should be angry with HIM bc I did NOT know. I fell in love with who he pretended to be bc obviously I don't know the REAL him at all. I feel so filthy & used. How do I get past this pain?
Most Helpful Guy
A bucked of Ben and Jerry's and Romantic Comedies... I'm just kidding. Anyway, you just need some time to re-evaluate what went wrong and what were the signs he was giving to "trick" you? Realize what you missed, learn from them, and ultimately, try again. You probably need to hang out with your girl friends and have a little fun.0
Most Helpful Girl
This happened to a friend of mine. They had been dating a few months And he went on vacation for 2 weeks. She found out months and months later that the vacation was him going home and getting married/his honeymoon. She ended up pregnant. He moved hI'm and his wife to another state and she never heard from him again. My friend ended up dropping out of grad school upon the news of the pregnancy, moving home with her parents, and became a stripper. I'm not even joking.
It's going to hurt. There's no getting around that. But every time you want to blame yourself or think it was something you did... you look at yourself in the mirror and remember you are awesome and he is absolute scum. Truly. It will take time; but one day you will have a moment when you realize he isn't worth a single thought or tear. You'll know what you learned from the situation and how it made you a better person. Always learn from everything you do, and that is how you win at life.2