I am seriously struggling with the lonelyness of being single, its destorying me and causing me to think about my ex and the relationship a lot more frequently- not all the time though. I cry sometimes not all the time but when i do its more so at night. *Its been four months since we ended*
Im not interested in dating anyone else at the moment, In a way im to scared to get into another one, im also not completly over my ex so I feel as if that would be using another person. And last but definitily not least Im moving to Canada for a year in May. It would be pointless and would only cause hurt when I leave OR will stop me from taking this amazing opportunity I have been given. Just to be clear im not completly stopping myself from finding someone but im not going to go out of my way to get one just so im not lonely- im still keeping my heart open.
Does anyone have any tips that can help me conquer this lonelyness, most of my friends are in relationships. I really need to make more friends- which im hoping to do in Canada. I spend so much of my time either working, or at home which gives me so much time to overthink everthing. Occasionally go out drinking every other weekenk though.
Advice would be great- thanks!
What have you done to get through it?
Have any tips?
Have you been in a situation like this?
Most Helpful Guy
Honestly I completely understand how you feel. I never used to feel loneliness actually. People used to think it was weird how I never cared about it. Now I just want to go out and make loads of friends and meet women. I can't stand being alone lately. Like I can't think straight. My mind just goes to horrible places especially lately because something kind of traumatic happened to me when I was younger and this is the time of year it happened.. It's the Internet so I might as well be honest.. I was touched inappropriately by an older male student when I was younger over a period of time and it kind of fucked me up when it comes to trust and intimacy. I probably should get therapy to work through it but that's expensive lol
Anyway just try to go out and new people and distract yourself from your thoughts. People can really drive themselves crazy I've learned. Hang around positive people who can make you smile and try to meet a few quality people you can bare your soul to. The latter has been wicked helpful to me.
Good luck and you're not alone! I believe in you! ❤️1
Most Helpful Girl
I had been alone for two years after my ex dumped me for no reason. I went through a lot of pain and pursued him relentlessly without him telling me he doesn't care about me anymore.
My advice is to stop and focus on his negatives. "Oh he was a good kisser BUT he also did ditch me that one time" and realise you two will NEVER get back together.
Focus on yourself. Learn new things about yourself. Take risks. Try new things. Grow.
When you go to Canada continue focusing on your new life.
After suffering the two years I dyed my hair red and started a new life. Yes I wasn't over him but I just erased him from my life. I met someone new too and although I didn't want to date them (for all the reasons you just stated) I did. It took a while to adjust and for me to get over my ex but it occured.
Remember dont let the past get to you. Focus on the future.1