I still want to see my friends and go out. But I used to enjoy mixers and events for singles. Now I'm scared about going because my ex who I just broke up with a month ago and met there was a manipulative psychopath who tore apart my soul. I'm starting therapy but I am still feeling vulnerable and scared that I'll just find another partner who is unhealthy.
Most Helpful Guy
Yes... Just go out and have a good time but stay away from guys at the moment, or at least having a relationship or a sexual relationship.. Give yourself time to get used to the idea of pursuing someone else but don't rush into anything.. You need time to heal.0
Most Helpful Girl
You're at a very fragile state.
The break up was a huge blow to you... you need time to heal.
Eventually you will get back to yourself.
You have to give yourself time.
Although once month seems like a long time... that's still pretty recent.
"I am still feeling vulnerable and scared that I'll find just another partner who is unhealthy".
It's possible people enter into bad relationship after bad relationship.
But since you have more experience (because of what you've been through), you can use that as a tool to recognize things.
If you see those same negative qualities that you didn't like in your previous relationship, then you can use that as a red flag (to alert you).
You can get out of that relationship.
Every experience we have can better equip us for the future.
You can't control who you encounter.
You can control how you handle the situation (whether you allow those experiences to continue or not).
You'll be alright.0