Before everyone attacks me for leaving him in need i need to say that he had mild-severe deppression and he had it before he met me. When we met i boosted him up and he opened up to me and it was very releasing to him. I wad glad to help. Its now been 5years and in a way he has fixated his happiness on me. I dont think thats healthy. At times when we would fight he would always bring this up and pretty much guilt trip me. He was always entitled to feel upset because of this condition but i wasn't. I always had to put aside my feelings for him. I just felt neglected. Also more in depth he doesn't love himself. How can our love grow when his is out of reach. How can he love me when he doesn't love himself? He refuses to see therapists and im exhausted of being the fixer. I felt like if i walked away he would go jump of a bridge. I became trapped and miserable. I finally worked up the strength to leave. Was i wrong?
Most Helpful Guy
Your not responsible for his happiness, he is responsible for his own happiness. You have done nothing wrong by breaking up with him, if you feel the relationship is not making you happy, and not making you grow as person, then you have to do what's right for yourself.
When you stop taking care of yourself you get out of balance and you really forget how to take care of others."
If you don't take care of yourself, you then become imbalanced and lose your way in life, and when person doesn't take of themselves they start blaming other people for their happiness.1
Most Helpful Girl
No, its good that you did. He can't depend on you and he needs to learn how to be okay with being alone. Only problem is that he might deal with it very badly.1