Most Helpful Guy
Your not responsible for his happiness, he is responsible for his own happiness. You have done nothing wrong by breaking up with him, if you feel the relationship is not making you happy, and not making you grow as person, then you have to do what's right for yourself.
When you stop taking care of yourself you get out of balance and you really forget how to take care of others."
If you don't take care of yourself, you then become imbalanced and lose your way in life, and when person doesn't take of themselves they start blaming other people for their happiness.1
Most Helpful Girl
As someone with depression (got it from my mom thanks a lot mom!) it's my biggest fear that I ever act this way and I try not to use my illness as an excuse for anything. Getting treatment was really hard and admitting that I had been diagnosed and I was going to have to work super hard to control it was really painful. I knew deep down I had depression for years before reaching out for help because I was in denial. It sounds like you tried way harder than my boyfriend does (he's very self focused) which is really commendable. Depression has always been something I felt unbearably guilty for having but my friend who has depression himself took me to the campus doctor to make an appointment and now I am starting treatment, antidepressants scare me but if they make me easier to deal with I'll do it. I don't want to be a selfish, crazy, mentally ill bitch. But I know if I had to leave my boyfriend I'd still find a way to be happy because I make friends easily and most people can't believe I have depression. So I don't expect any relationship to last though this is my first because no one wants a depressive for long that's just how it is until you are well into treatment. I think you tried but depression is a destructive thing, I do think he was wrong for using his illness as an excuse.1