A month ago me and my girl broke up because of me, I was arguing with her and told her to come get her things. I really regret it and tried telling her that I didn't mean it and asked her for another chance but she wanted a break from our relationship. She did tell me that she started talking to guys and even liked one but she then told me that she liked him like a friend and nothing else. Just last Sunday we got to meet up and talk to which I read a letter I made to her and asked her for another chance but she didn't want to give me another one, she basically told me that if it comes back then it was meant to be if it doesn't then it was never yours to begin with. She also told me to not text her or call her and that we may not have contact for a long time. I really love her and I want to be with her I'm still miserable and thinking about her all the time to the point that I even cry almost everyday because I'm not by her side. I don't know what to do. Also I talked to her mom and she told me that in the future there might be a chance of us giving our relationship another try.
Most Helpful Girl
It's not going to be easy, but you have to let this girl go.
If you love somebody you have to consider THEIR feelings, not just your own, otherwise you are unknowingly being selfish. You broke up with her out of anger and she realized then that she no longer felt compatible with you, and it's clear that she still has this belief. You trying to force a relationship on her and constantly trying to get her back is only going to reaffirm to her that you're more concerned about YOUR feelings and not hers. If distance and time is what she needs, you have to give it to her. I'm sorry.
You need to get back in touch with yourself; get back into old hobbies, start going out with friends again - things of that nature that don't revolve around obsessing over your ex girlfriend. Before you know it you'll begin feeling like yourself again.1
Most Helpful Guy
i think you are being optimistic that she'll give it another chance.
I think you just have to accept that for the time being it's over. so begin the process of moving on. surround yourself with friends and family. do things that can distract you from constantly pining over this girl. it's not going to be easy for sure but it's really just a matter of putting one foot in front of the other and walking away.1