Most Helpful Girl
What you are going through is completely normal. You were with her and it can be tough to now not be with her. However, you need to remind yourself of the reasons why you left the relationship.
It was draining, she was costing you a lot of money, she was talking to other guys which made you feel uncomfortable. You felt you couldn't see your friends. There are lots of reasons why you left the relationship.
Sometimes we date people, and it turns out they are not a good match for us. That is exactly what it sounds like happened with you and her. It's okay to miss her. But if you know that you won't be happy with her, then you can't go back.
Try to hang out with friends, do things to keep you busy and just try and realize that eventually these feelings will pass.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Guy
How can you fight that urge to talk to her? By remembering how. much of a boat anchor she was around your neck!
I was in a similar situation a lot of years ago. She would get a job, then find a way to end it within a month or so, then go through that same process over and over. Frankly, I have no idea how I was able to make it through that year and a half, paying all the rent, utilities, a car payment and feeding her, her two kids, and me, as well as paying child support to my ex.
She and I would get into arguments (unfortunately starting around 10 or so at night), usually about sex. After the 4th or 5th one in 2-3 months, I felt like enough was enough. When the lease was up, I told her I was buying a house and she wasn't part of the plan to live there.
Remember what she has done to you, especially how you felt with her. Think about how much $$ she cost you. Think about that and hopefully that will severely curb any desires to talk or get back with her.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE